As a business owner, you might think that I’m under a lot of stress all the time. I’m not. I used to be. I used to worry about every little thing. Once I stopped doing that, my life has significantly improved. I want to share with you my secrets to how I live an almost-stress-free life.
The first thing you have to do to get rid of stress is to stop caring what other people think. Why? Because other people don’t care about your opinion. If you don’t believe me, then go outside, talk to random people, and see how little they care about what you have to say.
But don’t stop there. If you think that your relatives, your friends, and your co-workers care about your opinion, they don’t. They have their own problems, and they have their own opinions, and they don’t care about yours.
Try arguing with them and convince them that you are right and they are not, and you will realize that it’s a waste of time. Don’t waste your time arguing with people unless you are getting paid for it or you are running for office. You won’t be able to convince them that your opinion is superior to theirs. It’s not. Not in their eyes. Only in your eyes.
People are selfish and mostly believe that they are always right. Don’t try to convince other people otherwise unless they specifically ask you for your opinion.
But do ask other people for advice. You are usually stressed when you are emotionally invested in making a decision. I’m emotionally invested in every decision regarding my business, so it might take me a long time to decide whereas if I ask a different person who is not involved in my business, it might take them minutes. And even if I ask my employees, it might take them significantly less time because they are not emotionally invested like I am.
They are able to look at the problem from the outside; think outside the box. If they are able to give me their opinion, then I want to know what it is because it will lower my stress, and I won’t have to worry about it.
It doesn’t even have to be the right choice. It doesn’t have to be the best opinion. All you want is to not make the decision yourself because if you regret it, you are going to blame yourself, which will cause you even more stress. But if you ask someone else and you take their advice, if it turns out to be a bad advice, then you can blame them.
Of course you don’t have to. I don’t recommend it. As long as you don’t blame yourself, you will be worry-free and stress-free.
Another thing you have to look at is how much time it takes you to get to and from work every day. I used to spend two hours every day on my commute, and I didn’t realize how much time I was wasting. I could be doing so many different things.
I could be working on my hobbies, I could be making money on a side, or I could be taking a nap. Whatever it is, I could be spending my day in a much better way than I was when I was spending two hours driving to and from work, looking for parking, and worrying about if my car has gas. All of this causes stress.
And if you take a train/public transportation, that train could be late, there could be different problems, you may have to stand outside in the rain and wait for it. If you have a choice, and you are able to choose a job that has a very short commute time, or if you can work from home or walk to your job, that’s much better even if you are getting paid much less.
Finally, you have to decide if your job is something that you like doing, or if it’s something that you hate doing. If you hate doing your job, that would cause you the most stress in your life. It doesn’t matter what your commute is. If you are spending 6 to 8 hours every day, maybe 10 hours every day, at work and you hate it, ask yourself why you are doing this. Spend some time and look for something that you want to be doing instead.
You might think that you don’t have the skills to work on something that you like doing. No one does at first. When people are born, do they have any skills? No. Babies don’t have any skills. Everyone has to learn their skills and figure out how to make money.
Figure out what you like doing and work on monetizing your skills. And if you are able to do it, your level of stress will significantly improve.
You will not be able to get rid of stress 100% of the time, and you don’t need to. If you are constantly working on trying to improve your lifestyle, find a better job, or start a business, it will always cause you stress, but it’s a good kind of stress.
That’s okay. There will always be some level of stress in your life, and you should accept it as a part of life.